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WEDDING ETTIQUETTE

When a bride invites you to her
wedding she extends a gesture that allows you to be a part of her special day.
This is an honour every guest should return by showing up well-groomed and
ready to take part wholly in the celebration. That said this being December it
is a month full of invitations to celebrate with family and friends. While we
are almost always inclined to turn up as we please, it is important to maintain
the following rules:
NEVER EVER WEAR WHITE
This honour is left to the bride
and the sometimes the groom. We do not want to have you arrive late and have
the congregation mistake you for the bride…it is the cardinal rule. Modern
times have brought with them different styles of bridal gowns not every girl’s
dream is a Cinderella like ball gown today brides can wear from a tea-length to
a sheath. Only very few people can break this rule ans actually pull it off without being rude.
STAY AWAY FROM JEANS
You can wear them to work on
casual Friday or the market or to class but never ever to a wedding. Men are
the biggest culprits here, some women also fall prey to this fashion faux pas.
It is tacky, it is not in good taste. If you did not know you heard it here.
Get yourself a good pair of chino pants in Black, Charcoal, Khaki and Brown to
sort all your wedding woes. Ladies are so spoilt for choice I cannot exhaust the
list.
 


DO NOT MATCH THE THEME COLOURS

The invite is dropped in your
mail colours purple and pink and my dear guest you turn up in these colours
looking like the flowers, décor, tent basically you look like you should have
been planted in a flowerpot at the venue….STOP IT!! Always strive to stand out
rather than blend in. the irony is when you are actually invited to a party
with a themed dress code nobody adheres.
LEAVE THE SKIMPY DRESS AT THE CLUB
If you walked out of the club and
straight into the wedding, go back and change. If it’s a bodycon dress that
barely covers your bum, I don’t care if you have stockings go back and change.
If you saw it on a Konshens video…go back and change.If you cannot sit without placing a program or your gift to hide well…that
which should not be on show go back and change. If you cannot wear it to church
go back and change. Do not be showing off your…when you bendover to Kanungo and
stuff. The groom saw your legs and he still chose to forsake all others. Let’s
not paint the wrong picture ladies, modesty is a virtue.

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DO NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT WEARING A SUIT
Despite your girlfriend nagging
about the way you look, a suit is the absolute wrong way to go. Unless you are
the groom or the couples parents or in the bridal party, avoid the suit. You can
wear a nice shirt with your chinos or your regular slacks and a blazer or an
African inspired shirt with linen pants. It’s not work so leave out the tie, I
do not want you looking ridiculous on my account

NOTICE THE GUY AT THE BACK IN THE BLUE BLAZER AND AVIATORS, THAT MY MAN IS HOW TO LOOK DAPPER…THAT’S MY BABY BROTHER BY THE WAY, WILLIS.

THE ART OF GIFTING
Picture this, you just got
married at 28 having worked and lived away from home the past five or so years.
In this time your taste has shaped out into your living room décor and choice
of household items but after your wedding lo and behold you begin to unwrap the
gifts much to your chagrin. I don’t know about you but I am very specific about
certain things, I can imagine the look on many a bride’s face when they have to
deal with patterns and styles of cutlery and crockery from here to Timbuktu and
back and triple the number of the same appliances. Even a bride moving from
home would like her home to take shape in a direction she approves.
While the culture of gift
registry still hasn’t been instilled in our society, the next best thing would
be gift vouchers. Rather than buy a sitting room, anyone would appreciate a gift
voucher from the furniture shop instead: or a bookshop if the couple is big on
books: or an art store, babyshop. Give her a gift you will visit them a year
later and find in use. If you have to buy glass I suggest crystal. I bet you
never thought of getting a nice set of towels, the rich cotton kind though. If
you cannot afford something extravagant simple is always better a plain set of
dinner plates works just as well. Unless you know a bride personally and you
were with her as she gushed over something in the shop, let us refrain from
filling up a couple’s house with ridiculous gifts.
INVITE ONLY
It is the African way to always
have enough food even for the uninvited guest. While this culture was good in
the time of our ancestors when all you had to do is catch an extra chicken and
throw it in the pot, the economy today just won’t allow it. Just because it is
your mother’s uncle’s cousin’s brother’s niece’s daughter getting married it
does not mean you should attend an entire clan in tow and insist they all give
a speech. Let us understand this, a wedding is really about two people setting
off on a whole new journey, it does not mean we should send them off in debt.

My ideal wedding would be for
about 150 guests at an intimate venue tucked away in an intimate haven: Laid
out tables with dinner plates, cutlery and napkins that I chose myself: Seven
course dinner and a smooth live band to allow free flow of conversation and
dancing alternately. Only my close family and friends in attendance, the people
who are genuinely there to wish me and hubby good health and a long life full
of happiness. I want none of those wedding shenanigans that are the norm: all
these in an ideal world.
If you are still stuck in reverse
about weddings and what is expected just picture yours and imagine what you
would and would not want.

Ciao Loves,